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When a parent needs more care

Maybe it was a fall, or a diagnosis, or a slow change you have been watching for a while. Deciding what comes next is hard on everyone. Here is a calm way to think it through, including what to do about the house.

We are not a placement agency and take no community referral fees.

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Where are you right now?

The order things usually happen in

  1. Step 1: Talk with your parent first

    Ask what matters most to them. People accept a change more easily when they helped choose it.

  2. Step 2: Get a clear picture of their needs

    Their doctor can assess what level of help is needed now, and what may be needed later.

  3. Step 3: Compare options and costs

    Visit more than one place. Ask what is included and what costs extra.

  4. Step 4: Make a plan for the house

    Keep it, rent it, or sell it. Each choice affects the budget and the timing differently.

  5. Step 5: Move with help

    Keepsakes go first. The rest can be sorted, sold, donated, or left for a buyer who takes it as-is.

The four things that stall a move to care

  • The house has to sell first

    The money for care is tied up in the house. Knowing both numbers early helps you plan the timing.

  • Decades of belongings

    Sorting a lifetime of things is slow and emotional. It does not have to be finished before the move.

  • Family members who see it differently

    One child is close by and sees the need every day. Another lives far away. Shared facts help.

  • Paperwork nobody can find

    The deed, a power of attorney, insurance policies. Finding them early saves weeks later.

Two ways to sell the house, with honest numbers

List it

Put the house on the open market with an agent.

  • Usually brings the highest sale price.
  • Often needs cleanout, repairs, and showings first.
  • Commission and closing costs come out of the sale.
  • The estate keeps paying taxes, insurance, and utilities until it closes.

Take a direct as-is offer

KRE Group buys the house as it sits.

  • Usually a lower price than a listing.
  • No repairs, no cleanout, no showings.
  • You pick the closing date.
  • Fewer months of carrying costs for the estate.

You should see both numbers. Your family decides.

KRE Group may also make a direct cash offer on a property; you are always free to list with any agent or accept other offers.

Families we have helped

  • Inherited house

    A packed house and no money for repairs

    Situation
    The family inherited a home that was full to the ceilings. Nobody had the money to clear it out or fix it up.
    What we did
    Our team handled the cleanout and the repairs. Those costs were recovered at closing, so the heirs paid nothing up front.
    Outcome
    The house was cleared, repaired, and closed without anyone in the family writing a check first.

  • Senior move

    An heir living in a care facility

    Situation
    One heir lived in a care facility and could not come to the house or to a closing.
    What we did
    We coordinated access to the property and every signature remotely.
    Outcome
    The heir's part of the sale was handled remotely.

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Common questions

Are you a placement agency?

No. We are not a placement agency and take no community referral fees. We help with the house: deciding what to do with it, and getting it ready or sold.

Should we sell the house before or after the move?

It depends on how the move is being paid for and how much time you have. Selling first frees up money but means moving sooner. Selling after gives more time but means carrying two sets of costs for a while.

Does Medicare pay for assisted living?

Generally, no. Medicare covers some short-term skilled care, but not long-term assisted living. Our guide to paying for care walks through the other options.

Mom doesn't want to move. What then?

That is common, and it deserves respect. Our aging-in-place guide covers making home safer and bringing help in, and the signs that it may be time to talk again.

Talk with someone who has done this before

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